Go Figure- A Look Into Child Behavior

When I was little, everyone was basically the same, in most ways, in the sense that most things kids did, or thought, could be related to. For instance, everyone wolfed down their lunch as quick as possible, just to get to recess, because if you stayed at lunch, or were in class studying pointless matters, you were considered a "loser".


I remember when mean, or stupid, was the most offensive thing you could call someone to insult them. But nowadays, things have become more cruel, real, and vulgarization was the goal in which we kicked our stereotypical soccer balls into. Always that pentagon shape, you were terrified to be different. Terrified to be the loser.


I remember when you always said your manners, and now, you don't know where they've disappeared off to. Your parents might say you left them at home. Now you are all grown and some of us still don't know where home is. We've become jaded.


I recall the day, in every one's lives, at some point in their life when they dared to be different. One of two things happened:


1. Everyone respected and accepted your decision to become something you probably aren't.


2. You were shunned out of a social society known as the group of people you may consider important.


Let us face facts here, number one is a mere daydream blown into your ear by the blustery breeze. Things have changed, some things have remained bitter, the same, rather. I recall, when little boys picked on girls because they liked them. In present day damn near everywhere, males are cruel to females intentionally for the sake of all that is uninteresting and distasteful.

I'm dreadfully sorry, it seems I'm trailing a bit off a tad. So, back to a subject in which I planned on speaking of. Things we probably all did as a child. I'm sure you all crawled up the stairs on all fours. I'm sure, at one point in your life, you were extremely picky about something your guardian made, and refused to eat it. Or you like some food that you didn't when you were a child, or vice versa. 


We all constantly check the fridge every five minutes just in case new food has magically arrived. Remember when we used to cut in line, when in truth, we're all headed to the same place at relatively the same speed?


 I recall the time when we had to make the choice between throwing a punch with your puny fist, or walking away. Now, several outcomes are possible, but it depends on the relationship between the two children in this confrontation or altercation. You could end up in a fight, two sided or not. You could end up with the result of walking away and not being touched a single bit. Or, you could walk away and go home, later getting jumped by the neighborhood brats who steal your lunch money. I know, how cliche. Nevertheless, this may or may not support the development of your future personality, or it may change the way you treat others.


Speaking of getting into a squabble as a child, here leads to another topic: behavioral problems.

All children have behavioral issues in the beginning, first and foremost because they just don't know any better. It's simple civics, they don't understand the fine line between what is right, and what is not O.K. to do or think, etc.But there is something to notice: Some children stop doing it earlier than others. Is it because they've realized that they can't have the attention all the time? The world doesn't revolve around them and their needs, perchance? 


Or is it because they've simply given up on working towards their goal. They've failed to understand why they aren't getting the attention, so they may assume they're being neglected; socially abused. So then they might begin to act out, disobey orders from parents and teachers because they simply can. Because they crave the attention they aren't getting at home, they may tend to get into some trouble at school. Whether it may be from teasing other kids, to talking back to the teacher in rude manners. 


Or it may be that they find themselves not getting any friends at school, or they are failing to learn some of the material presented to them in class, so they start to act out at home. They need attention, and sometimes, it may be nearly impossible to get it. For instance, like I stated above, they aren't doing so well in the social and educational environment at school, and their guardians spend most of their day at work, contriving ways to collect money so the family can hold onto the single red string hanging from the ceiling. So, be sure to remember, a child needs attention, or they may not turn out the way you hoped. Knock out the horrendous habits early, or things could accumulate into a big mess of incompetence and social agony.  

Social agony, is indeed painful. This may be related to being socially awkward. As a small child or an infant, if he/she isn't introduced to a lot of adults or other children, they may be uncomfortable or unfamiliar about social concepts, and the aspects of making friends or working well in a social environment may be somewhat arduous to grasp. So the most simple way to fix this is to have them always be around people, so they become comfortable around other kids when it is time to put them in a schooling environment. 

Based on my personal experience, I lived on a farm as a child, and wasn't introduced to many other than my family. So when it was time for me to go to pre-school, I cried every single time I was dropped off. I know, bittersweet and pathetic. So if it were up to me, I wouldn't put my kids through that kind of torturous notion. Not that I'm making an impression that you should raise your kids this way, it is merely my own opinion. 

There is also another probably that arises in most children, and that is the habit, of being bossy.

Being bossy: Its something, more or less, that happens to a humble amount of kids. This usually occurs when children are around their siblings, and they want them to do something when they're too lazy to do it themselves. Or when the children are playing, and the role assumption in the game becomes a conception of dominance and accusation. This could also lead to confrontation. Children tend to strongly dislike others that are bossy, or tell them who to be or what to do. So fix this problem by teaching them manners, and sharing. But let us think about this: children dislike to share. Hell, the average ADULT dislikes sharing. I know what you're thinking: If sharing is caring, then I don't care. Well, if we all learned to stop being so greedy, and share our toys, so to speak, the world would be a much more resourceful place. By the time we grew to be adults, maybe we would've shared the resources we aren't today. Maybe there would be no war. Because we would be working together as a unit. An Earth. But that's a different, more politically acclaimed topic. 

I hope you enjoyed this, comment if you may. Or if you wish to discuss more topics related to children and their behavior.